Shared kink interests and clear boundaries form the foundation of satisfying BDSM relationships. Stella Amor eliminates guesswork by letting members filter for exact preferences from the start. Whether you identify as dominant, submissive, switch, or explore specific practices such as impact play, shibari, or power exchange, detailed profiles ensure matches align on experience level, limits, and desired dynamics.
Unlike mainstream dating apps that offer only basic orientation checkboxes, Stella Amor provides granular kink filters including:
All filters are completely free to set and search, with no premium tiers required to access kink-specific matching.
Stella Amor enforces strict community guidelines focused on consent, privacy, and mutual respect. Members can keep kink preferences private until mutually revealed, and verification options help confirm genuine interest in the BDSM lifestyle.
Match on rope play, suspension, and bondage intensity preferences
Find Dominant, Submissive or Switch partners with clear roles
Filter by spanking, flogging, caning and pain tolerance levels
Connect with partners who share leather, latex and rubber interests
Match on puppy, kitten, pony play and handler dynamics
Find partners for rules, protocols, brat taming and consequences
Search for blindfolds, sensory deprivation and temperature play
Connect with total power exchange and full-time D/s relationships
After free registration, members complete a detailed kink questionnaire covering roles, interests, limits, and experience. These answers become searchable filters for everyone. You can require exact matches on must-haves (e.g., “must be dominant” or “must enjoy rope bondage”) and set deal-breakers (e.g., “no needle play”). The algorithm then surfaces only profiles that meet your criteria, saving time and reducing awkward conversations.
Popular search terms our members successfully use include:
All of these preferences and dozens more are built into the free filter system.
Complete every kink field – the more specific you are, the higher you appear in relevant searches.
Upload clear, recent photos that reflect your style (leather, collars, rope, etc.) while respecting platform clothing guidelines.
Write a short headline that mentions your primary role or interest – examples: “Experienced rope top seeking submissive muse” or “Bratty sub looking for patient disciplinarian.”
List hard limits upfront to attract compatible matches and filter out mismatches instantly.